My Story | hangasimoncoaching

My Story

As a little introduction, I would like to share my personal journey of love that I’ve embarked on over the last 12 years.

It all started with a wonderful man who entered my life at the perfect time. I’ve changed continents for this love and we got married. Seven years were filled with lots of inspiration, joy, affection and complexity.Then one day I realized I completely dissolved in “us” and I didn’t remember the person I used to be. Eventually, our relationship ended in divorce. We parted ways amicably, but that didn’t make it easier to feel the pain in my heart, face the void in my life and mourn the loss of the person I loved.

Yup, every breakup sucks…Have you ever felt that going through painful emotions is hard but it makes you feel alive again after numbing your true feelings for so long?

It took a while to relearn to be single again. I put myself into new situations, out of my comfort zone. Oh yes, traveling has always been the best medicine for me!!

Have you ever felt that going solo might feel uncomfortable but you end up your most social, open-minded self?

And I started all over…I felt very free, scared and super excited.

I wanted a change. A BIG change. I fengshui-d my apartment. I read every possible book on starting over, dating and love. I attended every possible seminar, workshop, retreat.

As much as I enjoyed my new freedom, I knew how much I loved to share my life with the person I love. I wanted to do it again!!

I mustered up the courage to take a deep dive into the world of dating after not doing it for so long.This turned into a liberating and fun experience at first. I reignited passion and excitement in my life. I felt alive and attractive. I learned a lot from each and every encounter. I learned to be curious and open, to ask good questions that reveal who the other person truly is,to be very honest to others about who I am and what I want and I learned to select and avoid the people who seemed toxic.

Then I met someone wonderful and fell in love. Everything felt like in a dream. I had to pinch myself to see if it was truly happening to me.

But then it ended. It was simply not meant to last as I was not ready.

But you can’t NOT follow your heart...

As Sting sings it: ”Love can mend your life but love can break your heart.”

I just wanted to run away from the pain, and not feel it.

That’s what I did. Literally.

I started to run marathons and running healed my pain. It reconnected me to myself and to the feeling of freedom.

I ran my first 13.1 miles then my first 26.2 miles and more and more of those. I chose the most beautiful destinations to go to for my races.

I’ve met lots of new people, I’ve made wonderful memories of exciting adventures. I felt free, happy and healthy like never before.

Running healed my soul, my heart, my body.

I never thought I would be able to run this much.

This experience taught me to be proud of myself and appreciate who I am and what I am capable of doing.

Have you ever experienced that sometimes the event that shakes your world and causes you so much pain reveals your biggest gift for which you feel very grateful for the rest of your life?

What do you do to get reconnected to yourself?

So here I was, happily single with my new lifestyle that brought me so much joy and slowly I started to fall in love with my life again. I was in love with everything. I felt happy for no reason. I was happy just being me.

Then the desire to share my life with someone popped up again. I meditated, reflected on who I wanted to be with and what relationship I wanted to create. I even felt that person around me…like a fresh breeze on my face…By then I knew it didn’t have to happen by default. I have the power to create my own reality. I can create my love life.

I knew what I didn’t want in a relationship so I focused on the opposites of those and pictured a wonderful partner who had a great chemistry with me. I've taken in all the mental steps but I was aware it wasn’t enough without taking actions.

I “forced” myself to go back to the dating scene. I felt resistance as all my memories of good and bad came back to me. I still did it for the sake of “taking actions”.

It was different this time because I was different.

I knew very clearly what I wanted and focused on the essence of my ideal relationship. I met men and saw them who they truly were and had fun just having conversations and getting to know someone new. I didn’t have any expectations or attachments. I knew what I wanted and I felt confident.

There it happened, at the moment I allowed it to happen.

I met my partner, someone just perfect for me. At first I didn’t recognize how special he was, I just went with the flow. But the more I met him, the more clear it got how compatible and what a great match we were.

We’ve been together since March, 2014 and we are creating a life we love together.

Finding love is beautiful. But do you sometimes think when the movie you watch ends with a happy ending: this is where the story really starts...?

Keeping the love and spark in a relationship is a daily practice. As long as you don't take it for granted, you take responsibility for your own happiness, and detach yourself from how long your relationship will last, you have the chance to experience a love as deep as the ocean. A love that just gets stronger with every experience you share with your partner.

Do you agree?

I am honored to be in service for you.

I'm here to assist you in creating the most magical love you wish for yourself and to help you keep your Man and the spark in your relationship with Him.

Oh yes, don't get surprised if all the other areas of your life will also be affected by your new perspectives on LOVE.

I wish I had known about the value of personal coaching much earlier.

I could have arrived at this space, coming to these realizations so much sooner. Just like you can train for a marathon by yourself but with the help and support of a coach who motivates, encourages, inspires you, who cheers you on, who guides you through resistance, challenges you with the right exercises you can meet your goals more efficiently and run through the finish line much faster.

If you'd like to work with me,

I’ll guide you through gaining clarity over what relationship you want to create and what ideal partner you want to attract into your life.

I’ll teach you how to manifest this relationship with your ideal person.

I'll teach you about the Law of Attraction and the other essential Universal Laws that you need to know to deliberately create your life you desire.

I’ll share with you multiple tools and techniques that help you overcome negativity, obstacles, resistance that come to the surface during our co-creative coaching process.

I’ll help you recognize the patterns and replace your limiting beliefs with unlimiting thoughts so you can be fully present and open to any new life and love experiences awaiting you.

And Yes!! All the techniques you’ll learn with me you can apply to add more love and joy in other areas in your life.

Because “Love is all you need.”